We all have 24 hours in the day. We all have the same amount of time as everyone else does. Yet none of us have "enough time" to do everything we HAVE to get done and have "free" time left over to do fun things. I know when I was single I hated being home alone and would spend just about every night hanging out with friends, I had a very large spider web of friends. Now when Chris is gone for work I'm forced to have time home, ALONE and it really makes you think and makes you prioritize. I am in the middle of a sermon series called Simplify and it talks about removing overwhelmed, exhausted, and over scheduled from our vocabulary, and the power of actually scheduling time to do things, time to spend with your family, time in The Word, time at church on Sunday, etc. While I'm still a fan of randomness, many times leaving something up to random means leaving it up to never happening. I know that in our life group we all talk about wanting to spend time together outside of our every other Tuesday night meeting but lately it rarely happens. We have stuffed our weeks so full of stuff, cleaning the house, shopping for a new necessity, going to school, doing homework, working, taking care of other people that we forget to schedule time that is truly for ourselves. That ends up being detrimental to our mental health, to our marriage, and to our friendships, yet we just don't see that, or see it as selfish instead of refreshing or re-building.
We NEED to schedule time with our friends, we NEED to schedule date nights with our spouse's, we NEED to schedule time for worshiping and fellowshipping. We NEED to stop saying, I just don't have free time, we have chosen to not have free time and it's hurting us. When we are over-scheduled we feel overwhelmed and it makes it really easy for the devil to take a foot-hold in our lives and marriages and relationships, and start breaking them down.
Let's all re-check our priorities in life, let's make sure that they're not sucking the life out of us. Let's stop making excuses and spend time with the people who are very important to us before they're gone. Let's stop saying, "We really need to hang out," or "We really should get together sometime." and actually do it! Let's schedule peaceful time that is meaningful and loving and fun and refreshing all at the same time!
I love you all and my time in Lubbock is fairly short and I'd love to make the most of it with each and everyone of you! When I'm in South Dakota or Colorado I know that my time is short and I try really hard to make the most of every moment I get when I'm there and see the people that mean the most to me.
We all have the time that we have scheduled so let's look at our schedules and see where our priorities are.
Saturday, April 27, 2013
Friday, April 19, 2013
Spring time in Texas
We've had a great spring. We've spent a lot of time together and have enjoyed all the time we got together. We've had some bad news and have had to re-evaluate things. Chris has been looking for a possibility of a second job in case we can't make it through the summer on his paycheck from his current job. Mandy's been making new friends and is always grateful for the friends that we've both already made.
It's been beautiful around here, it's already started to get hot, we have broke 90 degrees F, but then a cold front will move through and Mandy will sleep amazing. Unfortunately this last cold front had a freeze snap with it so many people lost their hard-worked gardens!
I've had a lot of time to think, and have been progressing on my research slowly but surely. I find it interesting the puzzle pieces that you brain puts together when you're trying to fall asleep. They may be simple things but they seem like way more complex matters until you figure it out. FYI 1 X 10^6 is equal to 10 X 10^5 NOT 100 X 10^5, that's what I figured out last night. I've had some very clear thoughts, I have been really focused on finishing school since I am feeling ready to be done. I realized today that I just need to focus on what I'm doing and enjoying it instead of focusing on finishing. I need to not be envious of other people, their lives are different than mine and we won't be sad to stick around Lubbock for a little bit longer. When it's time for me to get a job I believe that the right job will come along, so there's no reason for me to be worried about getting there!
I've had people that I didn't expect express to me this week that they're grateful for me, appreciate me, are sad that I won't be spending time with them this summer, etc. and it's done wonders for lifting my mood. When Chris is busy working I try to keep busy with work, but things like that always help to feel loved and needed when I can't necessarily get that from my husband (by no fault of his own).
I'm still dealing with the loneliness of a Friday night at home alone. During the week it doesn't bother me much because I've kept busy at night cooking, keeping the kitchen clean, and meal planning, but the weekends always hit me in a different manner.
I'm always grateful for my girlfriends that help me get through the tough times, who celebrate with me in the exciting times and share with me in all. Now I just need to figure out how is the best way to express that I love spending time with all of them even something as silly as sitting on the couch in sweats and that getting out of the house when I'm alone is pretty much the only thing that keeps me from going crazy. I don't have money to spend but I love going on walks, painting (houses or toes), cooking, watching movies, and doing crafty things and I'm not sure that people know that about me.
I think this all comes from spending so much time with my family growing up and being so far from them now makes our friends our family now so I desire to spend as much time with each of them as possible.
In the end I love all my friends and I love to spend as much time as possible with them and I'm still learning how to handle alone time as a married woman.
XOXO
It's been beautiful around here, it's already started to get hot, we have broke 90 degrees F, but then a cold front will move through and Mandy will sleep amazing. Unfortunately this last cold front had a freeze snap with it so many people lost their hard-worked gardens!
I've had a lot of time to think, and have been progressing on my research slowly but surely. I find it interesting the puzzle pieces that you brain puts together when you're trying to fall asleep. They may be simple things but they seem like way more complex matters until you figure it out. FYI 1 X 10^6 is equal to 10 X 10^5 NOT 100 X 10^5, that's what I figured out last night. I've had some very clear thoughts, I have been really focused on finishing school since I am feeling ready to be done. I realized today that I just need to focus on what I'm doing and enjoying it instead of focusing on finishing. I need to not be envious of other people, their lives are different than mine and we won't be sad to stick around Lubbock for a little bit longer. When it's time for me to get a job I believe that the right job will come along, so there's no reason for me to be worried about getting there!
I've had people that I didn't expect express to me this week that they're grateful for me, appreciate me, are sad that I won't be spending time with them this summer, etc. and it's done wonders for lifting my mood. When Chris is busy working I try to keep busy with work, but things like that always help to feel loved and needed when I can't necessarily get that from my husband (by no fault of his own).
I'm still dealing with the loneliness of a Friday night at home alone. During the week it doesn't bother me much because I've kept busy at night cooking, keeping the kitchen clean, and meal planning, but the weekends always hit me in a different manner.
I'm always grateful for my girlfriends that help me get through the tough times, who celebrate with me in the exciting times and share with me in all. Now I just need to figure out how is the best way to express that I love spending time with all of them even something as silly as sitting on the couch in sweats and that getting out of the house when I'm alone is pretty much the only thing that keeps me from going crazy. I don't have money to spend but I love going on walks, painting (houses or toes), cooking, watching movies, and doing crafty things and I'm not sure that people know that about me.
I think this all comes from spending so much time with my family growing up and being so far from them now makes our friends our family now so I desire to spend as much time with each of them as possible.
In the end I love all my friends and I love to spend as much time as possible with them and I'm still learning how to handle alone time as a married woman.
XOXO
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